Seloka Mendidik Anak Lelaki

SIAPA ADA ANAK LELAKI KENA BACA SAMPAI HABIS

Anak lelaki banyak energy.

Anak lelaki suka berlari.
Anak lelaki suka bergusti.
Anak lelaki perlu keluar kena matahari, nanti dapat tidur berquality.

Anak lelaki perlu keluar kena matahari supaya mood jadi happy, kurang depresi, tingkatkan memory

Semua ni ada scientific study.
Anak lelaki perlu terapi alami
Ada penyembuhan pada alam semulajadi.
Biar main parit. Panjat pokok sana sini.
Ini untuk tabung emosi.
Buka kasut, sentuh tanah, jalan tanpa alas dikaki.
Badan dapat create sistem immunity.
Dapat neutralize cas negative.
Kita nak restore humanity.
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Jangan asyik pegang controller Dan main psp.
Terpekap dalam rumah, dinding kanan kiri.
Dihadapkan pasif skrin entertainment dari phone sampai tv.
Beri anak lelaki haiwan peliharaan.
Tak kisahlah walaupun ikan guppy.
Supaya belajar rasa empathy.
Moga besar jadi suami mithali.
Tak da la ego meninggi. (Kannnn)
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Anak lelaki perlu ayah disisi.
Untuk jadi idola diri.
Spend lah time ke masjid. Suggestion saja ni.
Kalau buat Allah sukai.
Anak lelaki perlu ibu, sentiasa dengar Dan mengasihi.
Memang macam-macam perangai dia buat, kadang-kadang sakit hati.
Jiwa kena kental, sabar tidak bertepi.
Cakap sekali belum tentu bergerak.
Kenalah ingatkan beberapa kali.
Bukan semberono ya.
Ada cara dan seni.
Otaknya tak boleh proses banyak benda, satu arahan satu situasi.
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Rasa-Rasa nak mengamuk, cakap pada diri,
Ini amanah Illahi
Tugas kita bukan menghakimi
Tapi mendidik
Beri kasih sayang, tanpa belah bahagi.
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Ini soalan yang last sekali
Dah peluk anak lelaki hari inj?
Sekejap saja mereka membesar
Peluklah selagi berdenyut nadi.

How to Build Your Child's Confidence and Self-esteem

Assalamualaikum dear parents

In my Seminars I talked about how important it is to build your children’s self confidence and self esteem. Rasulullah s.a.w in his many hadith showed how he encouraged his sahabah to become the best that they can be.

Self-esteem is a very important ingredient for a successful and happy life in this dunia and hereafter. A person can be blessed with intelligence and talent but if he or she lacks self-esteem, this can be an obstacle in achieving success in his study, his job, a relationship and in virtually every area of life.

 

The early years of a child's life are the foundation for a positive self-esteem. Ulama in Islam always tell us to teach children with love and affection, to ensure that they know that indeed Allah is the most Merciful, Lovong and Compassionate.

As parents, we cannot control everything our child sees, hears or thinks, which will be contributing to his or her self-image. But there is still much that we could do. We have the child at the earliest years of his life; Allah has given us a special gift—a new human being with a "clean slate." During those early years, what goes into the child’s mind is very impressionable. Parents are therefore provided with a unique, never-to-be-repeated opportunity to set up a "self-esteem bank account" in which the child will store many positive things about him or herself. In the years and decades to come, this "bank account" will balance out negative experiences, which are unavoidable. How can we, as parents, build up our child's self-esteem? The following are some suggestions that I have read and would love to share it with all of you

1.    Show love and affection to your child. All our dealings with our children, starting from infancy, should be done with a lot of affection and love. A baby who was dealt with love and affection will get a subconscious feeling that s/he is worthy and important enough to be loved.

2.   Compliment your child. Give your child compliments as often as possible, whenever they do something right. Say, "I am very proud of you. You are very special. I like the way you have done it."

3.    Make your compliments credible. It is important, however, that the compliments be credible. Exaggerated compliments like, "You are the best in the world. You are the nicest person that ever lived" can actually be counter-productive. The child will develop an inflated ego, and that can affect his relationship with friends, which in the long run will have a negative effect on his or her self-esteem.

4.    Set goals for your child. The goal should be something attainable—to get dressed by herself, to get a certain mark on his next test. Set goals that are suited for the child's age and capabilities (setting a goal which is unattainable will have a negative effect). As the child works toward the goal, coach her along and compliment her success each step along the way. Once the child reaches the goal, compliment her achievement and reinforce her self-image as an achiever.

5.    Criticize the action, not the person. When the child does something negative, say to the child, "You are such a good and special child, you should not be engaging in such an activity," instead of saying, "you are a bad child."

 6.    Validate your child's feelings. When your child suffers a blow to his self-esteem, it's important to validate his feelings. For example, if the child gets offended by a hurtful comment made by a friend or a teacher, say to the child, "Yes, you were offended by what that person said" or "you were offended by the fact that the other person doesn't like you." Only after the child feels that his feelings have been validated will he be open to you bolstering his self-esteem by pointing out the people who do like him, and the positive things that others have said about him.

 Alhamdulillah,  lets try to practice these tips given and lets see if the amal that we do will increase our children’s self confidence and self esteem.

Inshaa Allah, till we meet again

7.    Be proud of your child. On a regular basis, we must remember to tell the child how fortunate and how proud we are to be her parents.

8.    Talk positively about your child in the presence of important people in his life, such as grandparents, teachers, friends etc.

9.    Never to compare your child to others, saying, "why aren’t you like Johnny?" When such comparisons are made by others, reassure your child that she is special and unique in her own way."

10. Make sure that others dealing with your child know your child's strengths. At the beginning of the school year, speak with your child's teachers and tell them what your child's special strengths are and about the areas in which he or she excels, so that the teacher will have a positive outlook towards them and will continue to build on those strengths.

11. Tell the child on a regular basis that you will love them unconditionally. When they fail, or do the wrong thing, remember to say to them, "You are special to me, I will always love you, no matter what!”

12. Tend to your own self-esteem. You need to see yourself in a positive light. Parents who lack self-esteem will have difficulties bringing up a child with a high self-esteem. A good positive parent is a parent who knows that he or she is not perfect but values him or herself, while always trying to grow and improve.